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06-11-2021, 05:04 PM
So, your daughter is getting married in less than 24 hours. She pulls you aside and asks if you're ok if her "step father" walks her down the aisle as well. A threesome, if you will. You've been divorced for 17 years and her step daddy was introduced into her life as her Mom's paramour. During the conversation, your daughter refers to your as her "birth father." Keep in mind You've ALWAYS been VERY involved in her life. What would you tell your little girl?
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Can't tell her to forget it or get lost.  That won't work.  Father could do that but it would make it worse. The father is in a bad way and almost has to accept it or blow up a big day.  Damn shame.
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She is playing the hand she was dealt. She didn't ask for those complications to be brought into her life. Sure, it might hurt but it is what it is.
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If she would have started and stopped with the original question Iâ€d probably be cool with it because she has been around the dude for quite a while, but the rest of the stuff was a kick in the nuts.  Not gonna lie/sugar coat that
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To me there would be no compromise. If she insists to have her step-dad walk her down the isle, fine, but count me out....especially is you have been very involved in her life.
The step dad should realize this and insist that "HER DAD" walk he down the isle.
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Awful. But you have to do it and just take the pain.
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It wouldn't bother me. I think.
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I agree with HT.
Sure didn't ask for this.
Her fault is waiting this late to tell him.
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Are both the father and step father paying for any part of it?
Did she use the aisle walk as a ruse to get dad to chip in?
This should have been figured out well before, something happen?
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(06-11-2021, 06:21 PM)unc4corners Wrote: I agree with HT.
Sure didn't ask for this.
Her fault is waiting this late to tell him.
Agree it was not good timing on her part.
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(06-11-2021, 05:33 PM)3rdgensooner Wrote: Awful. But you have to do it and just take the pain.
Agreed here. Difficult to be sure. But smile and make no comments. Itâ€
s possible she loves Dad and Step-Dad equally.
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(06-11-2021, 05:04 PM)Beastdog Wrote: So, your daughter is getting married in less than 24 hours. She pulls you aside and asks if you're ok if her "step father" walks her down the aisle as well. A threesome, if you will. You've been divorced for 17 years and her step daddy was introduced into her life as her Mom's paramour. During the conversation, your daughter refers to your as her "birth father." Keep in mind You've ALWAYS been VERY involved in her life. What would you tell your little girl?
I would swallow my pride and my hurt feelings, be gracious and happy for her and enthusiastically accept.
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