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[davebucknut]

I finally picked up on a local expression here. If you excuse yourself or apologize for some minor transgression such as bumping someone or whatever, they'll hit you with a dismissive "no, you're good..." and go on about their business. So I finally decided to take it for a test drive. 

Anyway, boss lady is one of those people who apologizes a lot, so she made for the perfect test candidate to see if I am doing it right. But I must be doing something wrong, because she can't tell if I am being sincere whenever I say it. She apologizes excessively to other people as well, so she must hear "no, you're good..." at least a million times a day, without batting an eye. So I am at a loss here. 

Now I've noticed that certain situations seem to warrant an "oh, you're good..." instead of a "no, you're good..." so maybe I am getting my wires crossed a little there. Or perhaps I am not saying it quite dismissively enough, since I am kinda new at this; so I might trying too hard, or some such. I am bound and determined to get it down though.

A lot of verbal expressions are modulated by facial expressions, so check next time some one says this. 

I know you mentioned that at times you are not comfortable in public environments, so maybe your observation is playing out bigger in your head than in actuality. My wife and I talk about this sort of thing a lot.

Oh yeah, I definitely need practice being human, after being cooped up in my own office for 12 years. So that's kind of what I am doing here. Observing the way that people interact with each other, and trying to mimic it. 

I think you are correct though. It's really dismissive and subtle, almost second nature to these people. More like a reflex than any type of response. Usually no eye contact is even given. I usually don't think to deploy it until another response is already on the tip of my tongue. So it throws off the whole timing. I am looking her in the eye, about to say "that's okay" or whatever, but then I switch gears and hit her with a "no, you're good...." and she's just like wtf?

Funny you say that, I've been self employed solely working by myself for 6+ years and now that I'm employed again, it is a bit of an adjustment.

Mostly I feel some anxiety making sure I don't do something to get fired or to pkss off my colleagues, because I haven't had to worry about those things for so long.

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[Blinky]

I finally picked up on a local expression here. If you excuse yourself or apologize for some minor transgression such as bumping someone or whatever, they'll hit you with a dismissive "no, you're good..." and go on about their business. So I finally decided to take it for a test drive. 

Anyway, boss lady is one of those people who apologizes a lot, so she made for the perfect test candidate to see if I am doing it right. But I must be doing something wrong, because she can't tell if I am being sincere whenever I say it. She apologizes excessively to other people as well, so she must hear "no, you're good..." at least a million times a day, without batting an eye. So I am at a loss here. 

Now I've noticed that certain situations seem to warrant an "oh, you're good..." instead of a "no, you're good..." so maybe I am getting my wires crossed a little there. Or perhaps I am not saying it quite dismissively enough, since I am kinda new at this; so I might trying too hard, or some such. I am bound and determined to get it down though.

A lot of verbal expressions are modulated by facial expressions, so check next time some one says this. 

I know you mentioned that at times you are not comfortable in public environments, so maybe your observation is playing out bigger in your head than in actuality. My wife and I talk about this sort of thing a lot.

Oh yeah, I definitely need practice being human, after being cooped up in my own office for 12 years. So that's kind of what I am doing here. Observing the way that people interact with each other, and trying to mimic it. 

I think you are correct though. It's really dismissive and subtle, almost second nature to these people. More like a reflex than any type of response. Usually no eye contact is even given. I usually don't think to deploy it until another response is already on the tip of my tongue. So it throws off the whole timing. I am looking her in the eye, about to say "that's okay" or whatever, but then I switch gears and hit her with a "no, you're good...." and she's just like wtf?

And thats your answer , Hit her with a WTF looking her straight in the face..... It will do her good and you also.

Give the good ole midwestern “Ope!” as you pass by.

You know, all the years I lived in Ohio, I never noticed that until right up at the very end. What is the deal with that? It's like the most standard American accent imaginable, but they can't pronounce the word "yup"? That's insane!

[Blinky]

I finally picked up on a local expression here. If you excuse yourself or apologize for some minor transgression such as bumping someone or whatever, they'll hit you with a dismissive "no, you're good..." and go on about their business. So I finally decided to take it for a test drive. 

Anyway, boss lady is one of those people who apologizes a lot, so she made for the perfect test candidate to see if I am doing it right. But I must be doing something wrong, because she can't tell if I am being sincere whenever I say it. She apologizes excessively to other people as well, so she must hear "no, you're good..." at least a million times a day, without batting an eye. So I am at a loss here. 

Now I've noticed that certain situations seem to warrant an "oh, you're good..." instead of a "no, you're good..." so maybe I am getting my wires crossed a little there. Or perhaps I am not saying it quite dismissively enough, since I am kinda new at this; so I might trying too hard, or some such. I am bound and determined to get it down though.

A lot of verbal expressions are modulated by facial expressions, so check next time some one says this. 

I know you mentioned that at times you are not comfortable in public environments, so maybe your observation is playing out bigger in your head than in actuality. My wife and I talk about this sort of thing a lot.

Oh yeah, I definitely need practice being human, after being cooped up in my own office for 12 years. So that's kind of what I am doing here. Observing the way that people interact with each other, and trying to mimic it. 

I think you are correct though. It's really dismissive and subtle, almost second nature to these people. More like a reflex than any type of response. Usually no eye contact is even given. I usually don't think to deploy it until another response is already on the tip of my tongue. So it throws off the whole timing. I am looking her in the eye, about to say "that's okay" or whatever, but then I switch gears and hit her with a "no, you're good...." and she's just like wtf?

And thats your answer , Hit her with a WTF looking her straight in the face..... It will do her good and you also.

 

**In a nasally, no-nonsense voice**

"Blinky, for your next assignment I'd like you to screw my brains out"

"Well okay, you're the boss."

[ChinaBuck]

A lot of verbal expressions are modulated by facial expressions, so check next time some one says this. 

I know you mentioned that at times you are not comfortable in public environments, so maybe your observation is playing out bigger in your head than in actuality. My wife and I talk about this sort of thing a lot.

Oh yeah, I definitely need practice being human, after being cooped up in my own office for 12 years. So that's kind of what I am doing here. Observing the way that people interact with each other, and trying to mimic it. 

I think you are correct though. It's really dismissive and subtle, almost second nature to these people. More like a reflex than any type of response. Usually no eye contact is even given. I usually don't think to deploy it until another response is already on the tip of my tongue. So it throws off the whole timing. I am looking her in the eye, about to say "that's okay" or whatever, but then I switch gears and hit her with a "no, you're good...." and she's just like wtf?

And thats your answer , Hit her with a WTF looking her straight in the face..... It will do her good and you also.

Give the good ole midwestern “Ope!” as you pass by.

You know, all the years I lived in Ohio, I never noticed that until right up at the very end. What is the deal with that? It's like the most standard American accent imaginable, but they can't pronounce the word "yup"? That's insane!

I never heard it a lot in Columbus or Cincy, but slowly became more prevalent as I got older. I think it is more widely used in the midwest more to the west. But, I do use it on occasion. Some Chinese just look at me weird when I say it out of habit.

[ScarletHayes]

Another thing ya never see anymore are guys with flasks.  

[Blinky]

I finally picked up on a local expression here. If you excuse yourself or apologize for some minor transgression such as bumping someone or whatever, they'll hit you with a dismissive "no, you're good..." and go on about their business. So I finally decided to take it for a test drive. 

Anyway, boss lady is one of those people who apologizes a lot, so she made for the perfect test candidate to see if I am doing it right. But I must be doing something wrong, because she can't tell if I am being sincere whenever I say it. She apologizes excessively to other people as well, so she must hear "no, you're good..." at least a million times a day, without batting an eye. So I am at a loss here. 

Now I've noticed that certain situations seem to warrant an "oh, you're good..." instead of a "no, you're good..." so maybe I am getting my wires crossed a little there. Or perhaps I am not saying it quite dismissively enough, since I am kinda new at this; so I might trying too hard, or some such. I am bound and determined to get it down though.

A lot of verbal expressions are modulated by facial expressions, so check next time some one says this. 

I know you mentioned that at times you are not comfortable in public environments, so maybe your observation is playing out bigger in your head than in actuality. My wife and I talk about this sort of thing a lot.

Oh yeah, I definitely need practice being human, after being cooped up in my own office for 12 years. So that's kind of what I am doing here. Observing the way that people interact with each other, and trying to mimic it. 

I think you are correct though. It's really dismissive and subtle, almost second nature to these people. More like a reflex than any type of response. Usually no eye contact is even given. I usually don't think to deploy it until another response is already on the tip of my tongue. So it throws off the whole timing. I am looking her in the eye, about to say "that's okay" or whatever, but then I switch gears and hit her with a "no, you're good...." and she's just like wtf?

Funny you say that, I've been self employed solely working by myself for 6+ years and now that I'm employed again, it is a bit of an adjustment.

Mostly I feel some anxiety making sure I don't do something to get fired or to pkss off my colleagues, because I haven't had to worry about those things for so long.

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Ya know, this chick has about the most bulletproof BS detector that I've ever encountered. I mean it is absolutely impossible to pull one over on her. You learn quick not to even try. It's like your own, personal Vientnam. Best just to come clean, right from the get go. 

So from that vantage point, maybe she's not the best one to try this out on. I'll try it on someone else, and see if my luck improves.

[Alabuckeye]

Blinky, youâ€ve cracked me upon this page. Keep us informed as you progress thru this psychological test

[stxbuck]

I lived a lifelong dream tonight-I went to favorite watering hole for trivia tonight, and the bartender was like “We have a beer rep in the house. Free beer all night!!”
My buddies and I also won trivia tonight.

[ChinaBuck]

I lived a lifelong dream tonight-I went to favorite watering hole for trivia tonight, and the bartender was like “We have a beer rep in the house. Free beer all night!!”
My buddies and I also won trivia tonight.

Wow, great day, hopefully you bought some lottery tix too.

[Blinky]

I was reminded today of a mystery surrounding the boss lady from the "no, you're good..." experiment, that occurred several weeks ago, and thought it would be a good one to run up the flag pole in this thread. 

I was plugging my phone into her charger (not a euphemism) as I have done dozens of times, and I was having a little trouble getting it connected, which isn't unusual since my port sucks. So she looks over at me and says "oh, that charger is so old, it will never work. Do you know what that's from?" I said "No" and she says "it's from...." then she stopped herself, followed by an overly assertive "I'm not going to tell you what it's from!" Then she just turned away as though the conversation was over. Wtf?

So I said to her "Now, if you are going to just leave that up to my imagination, then what I come up with is probably going to be quite a bit worse than what it actually was," which of course was my way of politely letting her know that I was definitely going to be assuming that it was a vibrator, unless she says otherwise. When faced with this ultimatum, she briefly wrestled with the notion of whether or not she should just go ahead and spill it, but finally she laughed in my face and invited me to go ahead and use my imagination, and off she went. 

Wtf? My first inclination was that it must have been for a vape pen, or some sort of contraband. But I'm a bit of a stoner myself, so that's probably why my brain went there. But what else could it be? It has to be something harmless enough that she was about to offer up the information of her own volition, but bad enough that she ultimately decided that she'd prefer that I think that she's charging a vibrator at work over knowing what it was that she was actually up to (bearing in mind that she's too honest of a person to just lie and say that it was the original charger for her previous phone, or some such). 

I'm a bit of a Spicoli type myself though, and it's not unusual at all to overhear weed conversation as you wander about the building. Hell, I've even overheard her talking about it rather casually with some of her work buddies. So I can't imagine why she'd choose to die on that hill. I mean, it's not like it's something that everyone tries to hide at any cost, or anything. But it's certainly not outside of the realm of possibility. I myself don't really broach the subject at work, even though I have a medical card. But I'm old school like that. So maybe she just thinks I'm a narc, I dunno. 

So what else could she have possibly been charging with this thing? Any ideas?

[stxbuck]

In honor of National Black, Indigenous, and Person of Color Mental Health Month (seriously, the diversity board at work said so), I present this masterpiece by the Geto Boys. Note-do not listen if you are offended by, well, the list is to long to write out!!

[ChinaBuck]

The sexual tension is thick, she wants you, but canâ€t bring herself to say it due to the power relationship of her being your boss. One of these days youâ€ll be in the supply room to get a box when she comes into the supply room to try to find a private escape from the constant reminders of what she wants when she glances into your work cubicle. She knows itâ€s wrong, but her desire runs deep. At that moment she sees you, holding the box, and itâ€s just the two of you. She breathlessly exclaims, “Frank, thatâ€s not the box you need, I have the right box, and itâ€s right here.”
You drop the box you have, she looks at you with deep anticipation, slightly tremoring at what might be. You gaze deep into her eyes and say, “Eunice, you are so right, this is the box I need.” You turn to your left, pick up another box, and walk out the door.

[ChinaBuck]

So I just got asked to speak again at the upcoming National Hospital Convention. I just might be the only damn furriner there, maybe that's the reason, they can parade me around and call themselves an International Conference. There was a conference/expo last October I went too, I didn't even even see another western looking face out of the 10,000 or so attendees. 

The nice thing is that I haven't had to pay to speak since about 2017. If you are relatively new, or from a small company, you have to pay to speak. Something close to $5000 - $8,000. It's crazy, never happens in the US to be sure. And because a lot of people pay to speak, their presentations are essentially commercials. But once you are established, it's free. Woohoo! And my food and drink is free, my hotel fee is discounted. Sometimes I get VIP transportation too, but not always. 

But here is the fun part, this year the Convention is in Wuhan. I was thinking my topic will be lab security. OK, maybe better not. Actually, maybe because I am a foreigner, they have assigned me a topic, "American Pre-planning Methodology and Development Trend" in the "Modern Hospital Pre-planning and Commercial Design Innovation Practice" forum. 

Yes, it will be boring. Actually, more boring than that, more like boring squared.

[davebucknut]

So I just got asked to speak again at the upcoming National Hospital Convention. I just might be the only damn furriner there, maybe that's the reason, they can parade me around and call themselves an International Conference. There was a conference/expo last October I went too, I didn't even even see another western looking face out of the 10,000 or so attendees. 

The nice thing is that I haven't had to pay to speak since about 2017. If you are relatively new, or from a small company, you have to pay to speak. Something close to $5000 - $8,000. It's crazy, never happens in the US to be sure. And because a lot of people pay to speak, their presentations are essentially commercials. But once you are established, it's free. Woohoo! And my food and drink is free, my hotel fee is discounted. Sometimes I get VIP transportation too, but not always. 

But here is the fun part, this year the Convention is in Wuhan. I was thinking my topic will be lab security. OK, maybe better not. Actually, maybe because I am a foreigner, they have assigned me a topic, "American Pre-planning Methodology and Development Trend" in the "Modern Hospital Pre-planning and Commercial Design Innovation Practice" forum. 

Yes, it will be boring. Actually, more boring than that, more like boring squared.

Likely a prepared speech too.

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[ScarletHayes]

Public speaking?  No chance in hell.  I could probably put that in the phobia thread.